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1) You are competing with one person for your son’s attention; she’s competing against a whole family.
2) Things change, people change. The son you thought you knew is not the same one he was before he got married.
3) If you have other children, do not compare them to your DIL. To add to that, if you make comments about how great your kids look and then say nothing about your DIL other than her name, we take that as criticism.
4) Your DIL was probably raised differently than you raised your kids. Do not scoff at her views just because they don’t match your own. Do not put unrealistic expectations on her to match your family.
5) If your son will be there, expect her to be there, too. If you try to push her out, she’ll realize and push you out. Please extend invitations, but don’t do so when you know she has other plans or is rushing out the door; we know you’re being a total wench when you say “It’s too bad you can’t come/join us.”
6) Don’t like her? Tough. Your son does and his opinion matters more than yours.
7) Your grandkids are HER kids first. You raised yours, now let her raise hers.
8) Making subtle hints about how upset you are and make passive aggressive moves, you will be ignored until you maturely address the real issue. If you continue, your son will hear about it and he will be on her side.
9) Your son is going to side with the wife, as he should. It’s just smart that way- he has to live with her and he’d rather she be happy so he can, too.
10) Don’t criticize her cooking. She probably thinks your meals are unappetizing and unappealing, too. Do not torture her by cooking or inviting her to go eat food you know she’s allergic to. Or feigning innocence that you forgot.
11) Do not try to one-up her. It’s not a contest, but if it were, she won when she married your son.
12) If you have to share a household with her, be kind. You’ll both be miserable, but your unkindness spreads to your spouse and your other children against her. Teaming up against her is cruel and hurts on so many levels.
13) Your son was not a perfect angel before he met her. You’re just delusional.
14) Do not ever say “We have nothing in common.” You’re both human sapiens and women; there are at least two things. That excuse is bull, do not use it. Get to know each other better.
15) Cut the superficiality and fake smile- you’re not fooling anyone. We would rather know how you honestly feel about us rather than finding a knife at our backs constantly. Honesty is the best policy- but honesty doesn’t mean crude & unkind.
16) If you are the one having troubles with other in-laws, look at yourself and not just at the DIL. Chances are you’re the problem, not the other way around.
17) We can take your relationships with your son & grandchildren away from you. If you’re toxic to us, why would we want you possibly rubbing that into them as well?
18) You blame us for everything and say how you’ve been so nice and done a lot. You are not as nice as you seem and your negativity is greater than any kind act you’ll do.
19) If you had a good relationship with us before and we’re suddenly ignoring you and your son is blowing you off, chances are you screwed up and we just aren’t confronting you about it.
20) Your son has probably hinted a few things at you about how we’re feeling. You ignore that or pretend like it’s a misunderstanding, we get even more upset.
21) Your son is a buffer. He loves you, but she gives him sex. He’s conflicted and in a tough spot, don’t take it out on him.
22) If your husband is an ass to his DIL, she’ll think you’re in on it, too. Don’t think you’ll get away with playing good cop, bad cop.
23) Her family is now a part of yours, too. Deny that they are, she’ll deny you as part of her family- which includes your son & his children.
24) Respect our wishes and requests; in doing so, we’ll show you the same courtesy.
25) Communication, communication, communication!
A list by explorinbus.tumblr.com. I have in-law issues, obv.